In the course of more than twenty
years of research into near-death experiences (NDEs), I have met innumerable
persons who have had NDEs who
had been moved to want to share their experiences with dying patients.''Many of them accordingly come to spend some time working as volunteers
for hospices, and in that setting they have something unique and uniquely
valuable to contribute to the patients to whom they
minister. It isn't just their telling of their
NDE, though
of course that can often be a part of what my friends are prepared to share.'' More
significant, I think, is what a
near-death experiencer is rather than
what he or she knows that is the vital
message that is transmitted.
Near-death experiencers are at ease
about death, and this is what is communicated when they work with dying
patients. I remember a near-death experiencer who told me that
although she had been involved in
hospice work for nineteen years, she had found only four occasions when
it seemed appropriate to mention her NDE to her patients.'' Instead, she
shared her being, not her story, and that, apparently, told her story in
another way.
What near-death experiencers have absorbed into
themselves and what they transmit to their patients is "the peace that passeth all
understanding."' If you read accounts of
NDEs, you will easily
understand the depth of this feeling of peace that comes with the experience of
dying and why it is that near-death experiencers are uniquely qualified
to transmit this knowledge directly to the dying person.'' Listen to just
a couple of these testimonies on this
point
One woman told me that when she found herself in the light, "the feeling just became more and more and more ecstatic and glorious and
perfect.... If you took the one thousand best things that ever happened
to you in your life and multiplied by a million, maybe you could get
close to this feeling."
Another man wrote, "then there was peace. Peace, but in order to give an idea of what one means by that, the
letters would have to be written thousands of miles high in soft glowing
colors...' It is a complete happiness, total happiness, beyond the realm
of happiness."
Then, there is the absorption into the light which conveys a feeling of
absolute love, total acceptance, unconditional forgiveness, universal
knowledge and complete perfection. As one man put it, "I just
immediately went into this beautiful bright light.' It was a total
immersion in light, brightness, warmth, peace, security.'' It's
something which becomes you and you become it.'' I could say, 'I was peace, I was
love, I was the brightness.''' It was part of me.'' You just know.''
You're all knowing, and everything is a part of you.'' It's just so
beautiful. It was eternity.
It's like I was always there, and I will always be there, and that my
existence on earth was just a brief instant."
The physicist, David Bohm, said that
the energy of the universe is not a neutral energy but an energy of love, and the near-death
experiencer returns from his or her encounter with death, not just to
confirm Bohm's intuition but to communicate it to others.'' This the
message that those who have already died have to give to those who are
about to die.
Studies have shown that the personal
presence of near-death
experiencers and the stories they have to tell have a direct effect on
those dealing with or facing death.'' Fear of death is reduced and
feelings of comfort and peace are increased.'' For these reasons, the
near-death experiencer is an ideal midwife to those who are about to
make the transition into death, for they have been there, and they know that
what is coming is a glory that even a Dante would find himself powerless
to describe.' In consequence, all hospices, it seems to me, should desire
to make use of near-death experiencers
in their corps of volunteer.
When we are born, we emerge out of
the constriction of the womb and birth canal into the wondrous world of previously unimaginable and
virtually unlimited sensory experience.'' And when we die, we go through
a second birth, which may be even more difficult than the first,
leave the world we know for another that transcends anything we can
conceive where we discover, finally, what it is to be alive.'' Fully
alive, and filled with a radiant joy "beyond the realm of
happiness." This is the the message those who have made the
journey have to tell those who are about to undertake it.' It is the greatest gift that they
have to share and, for some, the reason they have returned to life.''That's why they have and will continue to have a valued place at the
bedside of those who are beginning to prepare for their departure from
the world we will all have to leave behind one day.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------
I've just written a little article called "The Greatest Gift"
intended
for hospice-oriented
publications. However, if any of you would like to put it up on
your Web site, you certainly have my permission, which I am giving here on a
non-exclusive basis. The only request I would make is
that if you do decide to make use of it, that you let me know.''' Thank
you, and all the best.'' Article follows
below.
Ken Ring
Copyright1999 by Dr. Jeff and Jody Long