John
& Ellen's SMR
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Experience description:
John & Ellen's SMR
John
Inlow here. I wanted to compliment you on your soulmate article.
If you have
the time I would like to share a few paragraphs of my experience regarding my
soulmate.
I agree that
two soulmates' total sum is far greater than the sum of their individual parts.
I have accomplished more in my eight years with Ellen than in my entire life
prior to meeting her. I'm now 45 and, obviously, met her when I was 37. Since we
met I have started my own business, written a novel, written and recorded a
song, learned to operate a computer (never thought I'd own one), built my own
website, almost entirely constructed a 4500 square foot home, and greatest of
all: learned to love.
The
first 37 years of my life were in preparation for our union. If I had met Ellen
any sooner I probably would have lost her to all of the mistakes I seemed
destined to create. Our meeting was chance (outward appearance) and I
knew the moment I laid eyes on her that I was falling hard. We met dancing and
she had a date with her that night. I like to dance country and she likes to
dance
This is no
joke: we floated in the middle of the dance floor. I mean, I couldn't feel my
legs! The lights became a soft blur and everything began to slowly spin; just
like in the movies when the camera revolves around the couple. All I could see
was her smiling up at me. Everyone in the room vanished. It couldn't have been
more perfect. Time stopped for awhile. I knew then that I had fallen in love...
Because she
didn't dance country, the odds of her being at that dance hall that night were a
million to one. The odds of her being in the states were almost that bad. She
had returned back to the states from Israel to complete schooling in
acupuncture. The guy she was with (that I thought might be her S.O.) turned out
to be a creep that wouldn't keep his hands to himself (her words). Most amazing;
before reaching the dance hall I had honestly told God that I was through with
romance and love. I was just out to dance and nothing more. I would remain
single the rest of my life. Also, at that time I was studying Catholicism and
felt a resentment building towards Jewish people because I blamed them for the
death of Christ. Guess what? God has a great sense of humor. I found out that
night that Ellen's a Jewess. I laughed at myself a long time afterwards and at
the way God teaches me lessons. He doesn't always use a 2 x 4 on me. The worst
part of the evening was discovering that I had heard and therefore memorized her
last name incorrectly. I thought it a bit "tacky" to write down phone
numbers in a bar; so I asked her if she was listed in the book and that I would
call her the next day if she would give me her full name. Imagine: the woman of
your dreams, and you can't find her name in the phone book! At church I prayed
for a miracle. Anything! After church, at a Chinese restaurant having lunch, a
tiny voice in my head (you know the kind) suggested that I transpose the second
letter in her last name. So I started with "a" and then "b"
and then "c"; you get the idea. When I got to "t" it
clicked. I ran to the public phone and with trembling fingers raced through the
pages to locate what I hoped would be her name. It was..... turns out she had
left
Growth
employs struggle. I have grown a lot with Ellen. It hasn't always been easy. I
have overcome many weakness and thank god Ellen is patient. More than once I
could have lost her due to my indiscretion. And it's her patient attitude
(although she not afraid to display anger) more than anything that has taught me
what love's all about. It's easy to love when things are going well. But when
things aren't so hot; that's when the greatest lesson surrounding love can
occur. It's a shame that so many of us bale at that point.
Everyone who
has known me comments from time to time about the vast