While I was still married to my ex-husband I longed for a relationship where I was loved, respected and treated kindly. I hoped to have this with my ex-husband but as it was nearing ten years I had finally come to the realization that I was never going to have it with him. Just at this time I had a dream that I was in a swimming pool surrounded by patio lights. I was being held by an attractive man with jet black hair and I felt wonderful feelings of love for this man. It was so vivid that when I woke up I was excited. I enjoyed the feelings of that dream all day. I had never know anyone with pure black hair before so I just enjoyed the feelings and went about my daily business. 

I knew the marriage was doomed and I was coming to terms the idea that I would be leaving. About this time I was at my sister's house in another town. She had a pool in her back yard with patio lanterns across the deck. Lots of people have those. This day there was a knock at her door and she said, "Oh, that's Ashley, our neighborhood computer programmer. He's good looking." As she went down the stairs to answer the door I peeked over into the stairwell to get a look at this guy. Hmmm, not bad. I didn't think anymore about it. 

A few weeks later I split up with my husband for good. Eventually, I began dating Ashley, the computer programmer. Then that summer there I was in my sisters pool with patio lanterns all around and in the arms of a man with jet black hair and we were in love.  It was Ashley!